Indecision is self-imposed suffering.
A proper amount of thought must be given to the matters of everyday life, but there is a point at which unmade decisions become a form of torment.
Therefore, focus on decisions that prevent future decisions.1
By walling off areas of what I do and don't do, I narrow the frame of the decisions I need to consider. Then within that frame, I try to build resilienence into the process so I can see the dips that lie ahead. Because if I’m not willing to commit to something it’s probably not worth starting. — Seth Godin, The Knowledge Project #1052
Make a Choice System3
Am I excited about this? Was my immediate response a Hell Yeah4? Or was it met with uncertainty?
Yes: Moves forward excited! 🤩
No: If I’m not excited, it will only drain my energy not renew it. So, I say no.
Does this align with my short-term and long-term interests? Am I sacrificing the long-term for short-term gain?
Yes: Excellent, I can now focus on the day.
No: Knowing I’m not investing in my future self, I’ll pass.
Are you willing to give something up to make room? If I become overwhelmed, what will I drop to make room for this? Do I even have the bandwidth to take this on?
Yes: What am I doing now that I’m going to stop doing so I can free up bandwidth to give it the attention it requires.
No: Good opportunities are great distractions, but if I’m not willing to commit to something it’s not worth starting.
What’s the unmade decision that’s bending and twisting me in the wind?
Until next time,
For the last month or so, I’ve carried many chains of indecision. All of which has caused a great deal of stress. I avoided saying no in fear of closing the door on good opportunities. The conflict arose when I realized there was no time for what I most wanted. I backed out of and said no to several good opportunities which weakened relationships and left me realizing I have to become better at saying no. Not for myself, but to be respectful to others. In an effort to do so, I’ve made a single decision that prevents having to evaluate opportunities as they appear. For me, that’s saying no to contract work. The income required to sustain my creative outlet (newsletter, blog, etc..) will have to be generated by the assets I create. Making this single decision turns my response to other opportunities into a choice, not a decision, freeing me of the weight of those chains.